Liverbird on my chest
Monday, January 31, 2011
Thursday, January 20, 2011
Friday, January 14, 2011
No Shouting!!
I came across this very reflective article in the papers :
Once a professor asked his students : "Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?" The students thought for a while before one of them said: "We shout because we lose our calm."
"But why shout when the other person is just next to you? Isn't it possible to speak to him/her with a soft voice?"
The students gave various answers, none of which satisfied the professor.
Finally he explained : "When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the louder they will have to shout to head each other through that great distance."
Then he asked : "What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly. Why? Because their hearts are close. The distance between them is small.
"When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak - they only whisper and get closer to each other in their love.
"Finally they do not even need to whisper. They only look at each other, that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other."
So, when we argue, do not let our hearts get distant or say words that distance each other even more, or there may come a day when the distance is so great you will not find the path back to each another.
Once a professor asked his students : "Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?" The students thought for a while before one of them said: "We shout because we lose our calm."
"But why shout when the other person is just next to you? Isn't it possible to speak to him/her with a soft voice?"
The students gave various answers, none of which satisfied the professor.
Finally he explained : "When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the louder they will have to shout to head each other through that great distance."
Then he asked : "What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly. Why? Because their hearts are close. The distance between them is small.
"When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak - they only whisper and get closer to each other in their love.
"Finally they do not even need to whisper. They only look at each other, that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other."
So, when we argue, do not let our hearts get distant or say words that distance each other even more, or there may come a day when the distance is so great you will not find the path back to each another.
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
TEAMWORK
The best and the worst part of my 2010 revolved around : TEAMWORK. It can bring you up so high and yet smack you right at the face. A team player can't survive in an individualistic environment, that's for sure but what's even more factual is that if you get team players that acts like one, who talks like one, who believes that they are one, who convinces themselves and others that they are one, then my friend, you are in deep trouble!
But then again once in a while you'll get team mates who do not possess the necessary skills and knowledge but they are hardworking, resourceful and willing to work for the team. There are some who will wait for the right moment to rise up to the occasion with the right attitude, right enthusiasm, right leadership but wrong timing because it's always very much too late!! Also , we do get team mates who tries to dictate without any form of respect, who ends up with no end product and/or worse : no respect from his/her team mates.
The worst team mates that one will ever get are those who are ignorant, don't give a damn about anything, a free-rider who expects things to be done and their only contribution is their assessment cover sheet, toppled with golden words of motivation such as "chill la, why so stress" when the half-done assignment is due the next day. Not to forget, their common phrase would be " what can I do/contribute? I wanna help out " when he/she know nuts about the task besides charming their potential lovers to get them Mc D, coming up with irrelevant suggestions such as going to Klang to complete the assignment at his/her place (when the rest of the team mates are all centered around Subang/KL), and only pretty skilled at their smartphone games.
I'd rather live without these type of team mates but we had to live with him/her on the surface but deep down they are without an identity in the TEAM
Some TEAMS fail because they chose to fail,
Some TEAMS fail because they are meant to fail,
Some TEAMS fail because they have no choice but to fail
Some TEAMS fail because the other TEAMS succeeded
but MOST TEAMS fail because of TEAMWORK and
TEAMWORK fails because there's no TEAM at all !!
SO, should we be cruel but eliminating those who slow you/the team down? NO. We just don't choose them to be in the team in the first place. But how would we know their capabilities/weaknesses? The best answer that I can give you is to trust rumors and trust your instinct, because I SCREWED UP once!
However with a mindset of "the positives always outweighs the negatives", i can assure you that the only positives we can take is that the rest of the team members will be even more bonded and the negatives/bad news is someone will be left out so badly that they will feel really really damn useless . Do they even bother? NO. Why would they even bother? Some people never change. Period.
Regardless, I was tied in a bond so strong that it seems unbreakable to me, and i truly believe that we can still be the B.E.S.T without the E, so long as we give it our best, enjoy the process of working our brain juices together, we suffer together, we lack sleep together, we eat together, we starve together, we complete it together, we can have a satisfaction greater than what an individual can ever achieve because it's always a case of combined efforts = combined amplified satisfaction! =)
B.S.T is still the best and we won't miss the E! hell yea! =)
TEAM : Together Everyone Achieve More
But then again once in a while you'll get team mates who do not possess the necessary skills and knowledge but they are hardworking, resourceful and willing to work for the team. There are some who will wait for the right moment to rise up to the occasion with the right attitude, right enthusiasm, right leadership but wrong timing because it's always very much too late!! Also , we do get team mates who tries to dictate without any form of respect, who ends up with no end product and/or worse : no respect from his/her team mates.
The worst team mates that one will ever get are those who are ignorant, don't give a damn about anything, a free-rider who expects things to be done and their only contribution is their assessment cover sheet, toppled with golden words of motivation such as "chill la, why so stress" when the half-done assignment is due the next day. Not to forget, their common phrase would be " what can I do/contribute? I wanna help out " when he/she know nuts about the task besides charming their potential lovers to get them Mc D, coming up with irrelevant suggestions such as going to Klang to complete the assignment at his/her place (when the rest of the team mates are all centered around Subang/KL), and only pretty skilled at their smartphone games.
I'd rather live without these type of team mates but we had to live with him/her on the surface but deep down they are without an identity in the TEAM
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| If TEAMWORK is that EASY in REALITY |
Some TEAMS fail because they chose to fail,
Some TEAMS fail because they are meant to fail,
Some TEAMS fail because they have no choice but to fail
Some TEAMS fail because the other TEAMS succeeded
but MOST TEAMS fail because of TEAMWORK and
TEAMWORK fails because there's no TEAM at all !!
SO, should we be cruel but eliminating those who slow you/the team down? NO. We just don't choose them to be in the team in the first place. But how would we know their capabilities/weaknesses? The best answer that I can give you is to trust rumors and trust your instinct, because I SCREWED UP once!
However with a mindset of "the positives always outweighs the negatives", i can assure you that the only positives we can take is that the rest of the team members will be even more bonded and the negatives/bad news is someone will be left out so badly that they will feel really really damn useless . Do they even bother? NO. Why would they even bother? Some people never change. Period.
Regardless, I was tied in a bond so strong that it seems unbreakable to me, and i truly believe that we can still be the B.E.S.T without the E, so long as we give it our best, enjoy the process of working our brain juices together, we suffer together, we lack sleep together, we eat together, we starve together, we complete it together, we can have a satisfaction greater than what an individual can ever achieve because it's always a case of combined efforts = combined amplified satisfaction! =)
B.S.T is still the best and we won't miss the E! hell yea! =)
TEAM : Together Everyone Achieve More
Tuesday, December 28, 2010
used vs loved
While a man was polishing his new car, his 4 yr old son picked up a stone and scratched lines on the side of the car. In anger, the man took the child's hand and hit it many times; not realizing he was using a wrench.
At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers due to multiple fractures. When the child saw his father.....with painful eyes he asked, 'Dad when will my fingers grow back?'
The man was so hurt and speechless; he went back to his car and kicked it a lot of times. Devastated by his own actions ...sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches; the child had written 'LOVE YOU DAD'.
The next day that man committed suicide. . .. Anger and Love have no limits; choose the latter to have a beautiful, lovely life..... Things are to be used and people are to be loved, But the problem in today's world is that people are used and things are loved...
Be sure to keep this thought in mind: Things are to be used, but People are to be loved ... Be yourself.... This is the only day we HAVE. Have a nice day
Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits they become character; Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.
At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers due to multiple fractures. When the child saw his father.....with painful eyes he asked, 'Dad when will my fingers grow back?'
The man was so hurt and speechless; he went back to his car and kicked it a lot of times. Devastated by his own actions ...sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches; the child had written 'LOVE YOU DAD'.
The next day that man committed suicide. . .. Anger and Love have no limits; choose the latter to have a beautiful, lovely life..... Things are to be used and people are to be loved, But the problem in today's world is that people are used and things are loved...
Be sure to keep this thought in mind: Things are to be used, but People are to be loved ... Be yourself.... This is the only day we HAVE. Have a nice day
Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits they become character; Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.
Friday, December 24, 2010
A Story of Appreciation
One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.
He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.
The director discovered from the CV that the youth's academic
achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not score.
The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?" the
youth answered "none".
The director asked, " Was it your father who paid for your school fees?" The youth answered, "My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.
The director asked, " Where did your mother work?" The youth answered, "My mother worked as clothes cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.
The director asked, " Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes
before?" The youth answered, "Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.
The director said, "I have a request. When you go back today, go and
clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.*
The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.
The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother
shivered when they were cleaned with water.
This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his
graduation, academic excellence and his future.
After finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.
That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.
Next morning, the youth went to the director's office.
The Director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes, asked: " Can you tell me
what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"
The youth answered, " I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished
cleaning all the remaining clothes'
The Director asked, " please tell me your feelings."
The youth said, Number 1, I know now what is appreciation. Without my mother, there would not the successful me today. Number 2, by working together and helping my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done. Number 3, I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship.
The director said, " This is what I am looking for to be my manager.
I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of
others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired.
Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The company's performance improved tremendously.
A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop "entitlement mentality" and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts. When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others. For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement. He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?*
You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, or any other Luxurious things. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done.
He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.
The director discovered from the CV that the youth's academic
achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not score.
The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?" the
youth answered "none".
The director asked, " Was it your father who paid for your school fees?" The youth answered, "My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.
The director asked, " Where did your mother work?" The youth answered, "My mother worked as clothes cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.
The director asked, " Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes
before?" The youth answered, "Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.
The director said, "I have a request. When you go back today, go and
clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.*
The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.
The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother
shivered when they were cleaned with water.
This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his
graduation, academic excellence and his future.
After finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.
That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.
Next morning, the youth went to the director's office.
The Director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes, asked: " Can you tell me
what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"
The youth answered, " I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished
cleaning all the remaining clothes'
The Director asked, " please tell me your feelings."
The youth said, Number 1, I know now what is appreciation. Without my mother, there would not the successful me today. Number 2, by working together and helping my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done. Number 3, I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship.
The director said, " This is what I am looking for to be my manager.
I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of
others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired.
Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The company's performance improved tremendously.
A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop "entitlement mentality" and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts. When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others. For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement. He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?*
You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, or any other Luxurious things. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done.
Friday, December 10, 2010
parachute
I don't tell anyone about the way you hold my hand
I don't tell anyone about the things that we have planned
I won't tell anybody
Won't tell anybody
They want to push me down
They want to see you fall (Down)
Won't tell anybody how you turn my world around
I won't tell anyone how your voice is my favourite sound
I won't tell anybody
Won't tell anybody
They want to see us fall
They want to see us fall
I don't need a parachute
Baby, if I've got you
Baby, if I've got you
I don't need a parachute
You're gonna catch me
You're gonna catch if I fall
Down, down, down
Don't believe the things you tell yourself so late night and
You are your own worst enemy
You'll never win the fight
Just hold on to me
I'll hold on to you
It's you and me up against the world
It's you and me....(Love)
I don't need a parachute
Baby, if I've got you
Baby, if I've got you
I don't need a parachute
You're gonna catch me
You're gonna catch if I fall
Down, down, down
I don't tell anyone about the things that we have planned
I won't tell anybody
Won't tell anybody
They want to push me down
They want to see you fall (Down)
Won't tell anybody how you turn my world around
I won't tell anyone how your voice is my favourite sound
I won't tell anybody
Won't tell anybody
They want to see us fall
They want to see us fall
I don't need a parachute
Baby, if I've got you
Baby, if I've got you
I don't need a parachute
You're gonna catch me
You're gonna catch if I fall
Down, down, down
Don't believe the things you tell yourself so late night and
You are your own worst enemy
You'll never win the fight
Just hold on to me
I'll hold on to you
It's you and me up against the world
It's you and me....(Love)
I don't need a parachute
Baby, if I've got you
Baby, if I've got you
I don't need a parachute
You're gonna catch me
You're gonna catch if I fall
Down, down, down
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