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Monday, January 31, 2011
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Friday, January 14, 2011
No Shouting!!
I came across this very reflective article in the papers :
Once a professor asked his students : "Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?" The students thought for a while before one of them said: "We shout because we lose our calm."
"But why shout when the other person is just next to you? Isn't it possible to speak to him/her with a soft voice?"
The students gave various answers, none of which satisfied the professor.
Finally he explained : "When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the louder they will have to shout to head each other through that great distance."
Then he asked : "What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly. Why? Because their hearts are close. The distance between them is small.
"When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak - they only whisper and get closer to each other in their love.
"Finally they do not even need to whisper. They only look at each other, that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other."
So, when we argue, do not let our hearts get distant or say words that distance each other even more, or there may come a day when the distance is so great you will not find the path back to each another.
Once a professor asked his students : "Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?" The students thought for a while before one of them said: "We shout because we lose our calm."
"But why shout when the other person is just next to you? Isn't it possible to speak to him/her with a soft voice?"
The students gave various answers, none of which satisfied the professor.
Finally he explained : "When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the louder they will have to shout to head each other through that great distance."
Then he asked : "What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly. Why? Because their hearts are close. The distance between them is small.
"When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak - they only whisper and get closer to each other in their love.
"Finally they do not even need to whisper. They only look at each other, that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other."
So, when we argue, do not let our hearts get distant or say words that distance each other even more, or there may come a day when the distance is so great you will not find the path back to each another.
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
TEAMWORK
The best and the worst part of my 2010 revolved around : TEAMWORK. It can bring you up so high and yet smack you right at the face. A team player can't survive in an individualistic environment, that's for sure but what's even more factual is that if you get team players that acts like one, who talks like one, who believes that they are one, who convinces themselves and others that they are one, then my friend, you are in deep trouble!
But then again once in a while you'll get team mates who do not possess the necessary skills and knowledge but they are hardworking, resourceful and willing to work for the team. There are some who will wait for the right moment to rise up to the occasion with the right attitude, right enthusiasm, right leadership but wrong timing because it's always very much too late!! Also , we do get team mates who tries to dictate without any form of respect, who ends up with no end product and/or worse : no respect from his/her team mates.
The worst team mates that one will ever get are those who are ignorant, don't give a damn about anything, a free-rider who expects things to be done and their only contribution is their assessment cover sheet, toppled with golden words of motivation such as "chill la, why so stress" when the half-done assignment is due the next day. Not to forget, their common phrase would be " what can I do/contribute? I wanna help out " when he/she know nuts about the task besides charming their potential lovers to get them Mc D, coming up with irrelevant suggestions such as going to Klang to complete the assignment at his/her place (when the rest of the team mates are all centered around Subang/KL), and only pretty skilled at their smartphone games.
I'd rather live without these type of team mates but we had to live with him/her on the surface but deep down they are without an identity in the TEAM
Some TEAMS fail because they chose to fail,
Some TEAMS fail because they are meant to fail,
Some TEAMS fail because they have no choice but to fail
Some TEAMS fail because the other TEAMS succeeded
but MOST TEAMS fail because of TEAMWORK and
TEAMWORK fails because there's no TEAM at all !!
SO, should we be cruel but eliminating those who slow you/the team down? NO. We just don't choose them to be in the team in the first place. But how would we know their capabilities/weaknesses? The best answer that I can give you is to trust rumors and trust your instinct, because I SCREWED UP once!
However with a mindset of "the positives always outweighs the negatives", i can assure you that the only positives we can take is that the rest of the team members will be even more bonded and the negatives/bad news is someone will be left out so badly that they will feel really really damn useless . Do they even bother? NO. Why would they even bother? Some people never change. Period.
Regardless, I was tied in a bond so strong that it seems unbreakable to me, and i truly believe that we can still be the B.E.S.T without the E, so long as we give it our best, enjoy the process of working our brain juices together, we suffer together, we lack sleep together, we eat together, we starve together, we complete it together, we can have a satisfaction greater than what an individual can ever achieve because it's always a case of combined efforts = combined amplified satisfaction! =)
B.S.T is still the best and we won't miss the E! hell yea! =)
TEAM : Together Everyone Achieve More
But then again once in a while you'll get team mates who do not possess the necessary skills and knowledge but they are hardworking, resourceful and willing to work for the team. There are some who will wait for the right moment to rise up to the occasion with the right attitude, right enthusiasm, right leadership but wrong timing because it's always very much too late!! Also , we do get team mates who tries to dictate without any form of respect, who ends up with no end product and/or worse : no respect from his/her team mates.
The worst team mates that one will ever get are those who are ignorant, don't give a damn about anything, a free-rider who expects things to be done and their only contribution is their assessment cover sheet, toppled with golden words of motivation such as "chill la, why so stress" when the half-done assignment is due the next day. Not to forget, their common phrase would be " what can I do/contribute? I wanna help out " when he/she know nuts about the task besides charming their potential lovers to get them Mc D, coming up with irrelevant suggestions such as going to Klang to complete the assignment at his/her place (when the rest of the team mates are all centered around Subang/KL), and only pretty skilled at their smartphone games.
I'd rather live without these type of team mates but we had to live with him/her on the surface but deep down they are without an identity in the TEAM
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| If TEAMWORK is that EASY in REALITY |
Some TEAMS fail because they chose to fail,
Some TEAMS fail because they are meant to fail,
Some TEAMS fail because they have no choice but to fail
Some TEAMS fail because the other TEAMS succeeded
but MOST TEAMS fail because of TEAMWORK and
TEAMWORK fails because there's no TEAM at all !!
SO, should we be cruel but eliminating those who slow you/the team down? NO. We just don't choose them to be in the team in the first place. But how would we know their capabilities/weaknesses? The best answer that I can give you is to trust rumors and trust your instinct, because I SCREWED UP once!
However with a mindset of "the positives always outweighs the negatives", i can assure you that the only positives we can take is that the rest of the team members will be even more bonded and the negatives/bad news is someone will be left out so badly that they will feel really really damn useless . Do they even bother? NO. Why would they even bother? Some people never change. Period.
Regardless, I was tied in a bond so strong that it seems unbreakable to me, and i truly believe that we can still be the B.E.S.T without the E, so long as we give it our best, enjoy the process of working our brain juices together, we suffer together, we lack sleep together, we eat together, we starve together, we complete it together, we can have a satisfaction greater than what an individual can ever achieve because it's always a case of combined efforts = combined amplified satisfaction! =)
B.S.T is still the best and we won't miss the E! hell yea! =)
TEAM : Together Everyone Achieve More
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