You Got Any Lemonade?

When life gives you lemons, you make lemonade? Is this old but famous adage as simple as we think it is? Life was and never will be as simple as that. This phrase is said by some to show optimism , but to what extent? If you are given  lemons, WILL you make lemonade? DO you make lemonade because you WANT to make lemonade, OR because you NEED to make lemonade? Is there a choice? Since life is all about choices, WILL you still make lemonade IF there is a choice?

What if you are SO certain that you are going to make lemonade but you are NOT given lemons? Are we destined to make lemonade IF we are given lemons? Yes? No? Are we contented with lemons?

What if some of us want more than lemons, say apples or oranges? Life gives you lemons, but you want orange juice? Throw them in the face of the person who gave you the lemons until they give you the oranges you originally asked for?

What if you really really want to make lemonade, you grow a lemon tree but it produces apple instead? To be simple minded maybe when life gives you lemons, just shut up and eat the damn lemons? Period.

Well, by the time you are done thinking of what to do with the lemons, the lemons would have been very bitter and even fermented. Maybe another lesson that we can learn from this phrase is to not take too much of time to hesitate? In a consistent comparison to "procrastinator is the thief of time", this phrase also implies that one's procrastination/hesitation might just cost a life-altering decision, and TIME as well.

However, we are all human beings and what differentiates us most from animals is the fact that humans have feelings/emotions, which can lead to a positive or negative outcome, and it entirely lies in our own hands to make a decision. This phrase very much reflects a feeling of dilemma because we'll be doing a lot of thinking, more thinking and even more thinking : "hhmm.. what to do with this lemon ah?"

While some people never regret their decisions, some would just stop for a moment while squeezing the lemon and think : "Hey, what if the lemons are too sour?" or "Where to get sugar?" or "Hey buddy, mind selling me your cup of lemonade?". I mean, what is the point of pondering/thinking too much when you know how unpredictable and random life is? Have some courage, make a decision, and never look back because you have already chosen.

As much optimism as this phrase can reflect, there are always still a lot of factors of consideration that determines the outcome of the lemons given to you. So will you do something about about the given lemons or are you going to ponder about it and regret if the lemons turn bitter due to the amount of time you took to think? You decide.

As for him, he has already chosen NOT to make lemonade. Instead, he conned everyone by using lime and buried the lemons deep down the ground. He has the courage to choose and he is living with no regrets. *salutes*

I.T.C.H.Y

Have you ever felt an itchy sensation at a particular part of your body and when u reach out to scratch it, you realized that it doesn't cure the itch? Felt as though as the itch stemmed from another spot of your body, or somewhere else? And the funny thing is, you'll go round scratching everywhere in hopes of finding the right spot that will cure the original itch? You'll do all sorts of funny things to identify where the itch comes from or maybe try as many methods as possible (trial and error method) to cure this itch. Scrubbing your feet against the carpet, messing up your already messed up hair, scratching and poking your toes and fingers, these are just the very few things that one would resort to doing just to look for the source of the itch. Am I weird for feeling this way? It has been past 30 minutes and here I am still looking for a cure for the itch. HELP ME!!

btw, I finally found the spot! after another 5 minutes of itch searching

The Beginning

of a new chapter in life ? With just a day or two left before I know whether I am officially a graduate or not, I took some time to reflect on this long journey that got me to this point of time where I have another massive-life-changing-career-altering-decision to make. The ever-so-looming questions that gives me the chills down my spine are : Where do I go from here? What should i do now? Trust me, these two questions are enough to create a feeling of  "a school of insecure fishes being forced to swim with the waves towards the ocean of uncertainties"

Now I truly understand why am I feeling a sense of attachment towards this institution that has failed me not once, not twice but three times, and yet is my only guarantee to a better life ahead. Simply put, am I just not ready to face the harsh reality? The decisions made throughout the stages of my life were very much governed by the influence of other parties but this time round, for the second time in my life, I have to make decisions without any other influences and without having any idea of the risks and ambiguities ahead of me, or rather (to show some optimism), the opportunities that lies ahead of this unforeseeable route. 

Regardless, I know that the forces of aura that surrounds me will ensure that I will not walk this string of journey alone, and this force is strong enough to contain the aura in the form of a cyclical motion so that it will go round and round, in never-ending circles. This aura is not something that I chose, but at the same time, something that I don't want to lose. It came from no where and now giving meaning to every step that I am taking, including all the future undertakings. I don't know what the future brings but I know the aura will be so lost within me that it won't find a way out, and with that I know I can securely make  it through, and believing that I can make everything okay.

When I walk through a storm, I will hold my head up high. I won't be afraid of the dark because at the end of a storm there will be a golden sky and the sweet silver song of a lark. I will walk on through the wind, walk on through the rain, though my dreams be tossed and blown. I will walk on, WITH A HOPE , in my heart, and I'LL NEVER WALK ALONE for this hope stems from within, and what lies within me, within my heart, is my soul and the AURA that is still looking for a way out.

So, where should I go now? what should I do now? I still have no idea .FULLSTOP.

Get back up!

Baby giraffes never go to school. But they learn a very important lesson rather early in life. A lesson that all of us would do well to remember:

The birth of a baby giraffe is quite an earth- shaking event. The baby falls from its mother’s womb, some eight feet above the ground.

It shrivels up and lies still, too weak to move. The mother giraffe lovingly lowers her neck to smooch the baby giraffe. And then something incredible happens.

She lifts her long leg and kicks the baby giraffe, sending it flying up in the air and tumbling down on the ground. As the baby lies curled up, the mother kicks the baby again and again. Until the baby giraffe, still trembling and tired, pushes its limbs and for the first time learns to stand on its feet.

Happy to see the baby standing on its own feet, the mother giraffe comes over and gives it yet another kick. The baby giraffe falls one more time, but now quickly recover and stand up. Mama Giraffe is delighted. She knows that her baby has learnt an important lesson:  

Never mind how hard you fall, always remember to pick yourself up and get back on your feet.

Why does the mother giraffe do this? She knows that lions and leopards love giraffe meat. So unless the baby giraffe quickly learns to stand and run with the pack – it will have no chance of survival. Most of us though are not quite as lucky as baby giraffes.

No one teaches us to stand up every time we fall. When we fail, when we are down, we just give up.

No one kicks us out of our comfort zone to remind us that to survive and succeed, we need to learn to get back on our feet.

If you study the lives of successful people though, you will see a recurring pattern. Were they always successful in all they did? No. Did success come to them quick and easy? No, no! You will find that the common streak running through their lives is their ability to stand up every time they fall. The ability of the baby giraffe!

The road to success is never an easy one. There are several obstacles, and you are bound to fall sooner or later. You will hit a roadblock, you will taste failure. But success lies in being able to get up every time you fall. That’s a critical life skill. And it’s the habit of all successful people. Learning to win in life is quite like learning to ride a bicycle.

As you start to ride, you might fall and get bruised. It doesn’t matter. You need to get back up and continue to ride. Fall one more time? Get back up again. That’s all it takes. Learn to get back up every time you fall.

And just remember one more thing. Next time you find a friend or a parent kicking you, don’t get upset with them.

Like the mother giraffe, they may only be trying to teach you one of life’s most important lessons.

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No Shouting!!

I came across this very reflective article in the papers :

Once a professor asked his students : "Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?" The students thought for a while before one of them said: "We shout because we lose our calm."

"But why shout when the other person is just next to you? Isn't it possible to speak to him/her with a soft voice?"

The students gave various answers, none of which satisfied the professor.

Finally he explained : "When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the louder they will have to shout to head each other through that great distance."

Then he asked : "What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly. Why? Because their hearts are close. The distance between them is small.

"When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak - they only whisper and get closer to each other in their love.

"Finally they do not even need to whisper. They only look at each other, that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other."

So, when we argue, do not let our hearts get distant or say words that distance each other even more, or there may come a day when the distance is so great you will not find the path back to each another.