I.T.C.H.Y

Have you ever felt an itchy sensation at a particular part of your body and when u reach out to scratch it, you realized that it doesn't cure the itch? Felt as though as the itch stemmed from another spot of your body, or somewhere else? And the funny thing is, you'll go round scratching everywhere in hopes of finding the right spot that will cure the original itch? You'll do all sorts of funny things to identify where the itch comes from or maybe try as many methods as possible (trial and error method) to cure this itch. Scrubbing your feet against the carpet, messing up your already messed up hair, scratching and poking your toes and fingers, these are just the very few things that one would resort to doing just to look for the source of the itch. Am I weird for feeling this way? It has been past 30 minutes and here I am still looking for a cure for the itch. HELP ME!!

btw, I finally found the spot! after another 5 minutes of itch searching

The Beginning

of a new chapter in life ? With just a day or two left before I know whether I am officially a graduate or not, I took some time to reflect on this long journey that got me to this point of time where I have another massive-life-changing-career-altering-decision to make. The ever-so-looming questions that gives me the chills down my spine are : Where do I go from here? What should i do now? Trust me, these two questions are enough to create a feeling of  "a school of insecure fishes being forced to swim with the waves towards the ocean of uncertainties"

Now I truly understand why am I feeling a sense of attachment towards this institution that has failed me not once, not twice but three times, and yet is my only guarantee to a better life ahead. Simply put, am I just not ready to face the harsh reality? The decisions made throughout the stages of my life were very much governed by the influence of other parties but this time round, for the second time in my life, I have to make decisions without any other influences and without having any idea of the risks and ambiguities ahead of me, or rather (to show some optimism), the opportunities that lies ahead of this unforeseeable route. 

Regardless, I know that the forces of aura that surrounds me will ensure that I will not walk this string of journey alone, and this force is strong enough to contain the aura in the form of a cyclical motion so that it will go round and round, in never-ending circles. This aura is not something that I chose, but at the same time, something that I don't want to lose. It came from no where and now giving meaning to every step that I am taking, including all the future undertakings. I don't know what the future brings but I know the aura will be so lost within me that it won't find a way out, and with that I know I can securely make  it through, and believing that I can make everything okay.

When I walk through a storm, I will hold my head up high. I won't be afraid of the dark because at the end of a storm there will be a golden sky and the sweet silver song of a lark. I will walk on through the wind, walk on through the rain, though my dreams be tossed and blown. I will walk on, WITH A HOPE , in my heart, and I'LL NEVER WALK ALONE for this hope stems from within, and what lies within me, within my heart, is my soul and the AURA that is still looking for a way out.

So, where should I go now? what should I do now? I still have no idea .FULLSTOP.

Get back up!

Baby giraffes never go to school. But they learn a very important lesson rather early in life. A lesson that all of us would do well to remember:

The birth of a baby giraffe is quite an earth- shaking event. The baby falls from its mother’s womb, some eight feet above the ground.

It shrivels up and lies still, too weak to move. The mother giraffe lovingly lowers her neck to smooch the baby giraffe. And then something incredible happens.

She lifts her long leg and kicks the baby giraffe, sending it flying up in the air and tumbling down on the ground. As the baby lies curled up, the mother kicks the baby again and again. Until the baby giraffe, still trembling and tired, pushes its limbs and for the first time learns to stand on its feet.

Happy to see the baby standing on its own feet, the mother giraffe comes over and gives it yet another kick. The baby giraffe falls one more time, but now quickly recover and stand up. Mama Giraffe is delighted. She knows that her baby has learnt an important lesson:  

Never mind how hard you fall, always remember to pick yourself up and get back on your feet.

Why does the mother giraffe do this? She knows that lions and leopards love giraffe meat. So unless the baby giraffe quickly learns to stand and run with the pack – it will have no chance of survival. Most of us though are not quite as lucky as baby giraffes.

No one teaches us to stand up every time we fall. When we fail, when we are down, we just give up.

No one kicks us out of our comfort zone to remind us that to survive and succeed, we need to learn to get back on our feet.

If you study the lives of successful people though, you will see a recurring pattern. Were they always successful in all they did? No. Did success come to them quick and easy? No, no! You will find that the common streak running through their lives is their ability to stand up every time they fall. The ability of the baby giraffe!

The road to success is never an easy one. There are several obstacles, and you are bound to fall sooner or later. You will hit a roadblock, you will taste failure. But success lies in being able to get up every time you fall. That’s a critical life skill. And it’s the habit of all successful people. Learning to win in life is quite like learning to ride a bicycle.

As you start to ride, you might fall and get bruised. It doesn’t matter. You need to get back up and continue to ride. Fall one more time? Get back up again. That’s all it takes. Learn to get back up every time you fall.

And just remember one more thing. Next time you find a friend or a parent kicking you, don’t get upset with them.

Like the mother giraffe, they may only be trying to teach you one of life’s most important lessons.

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No Shouting!!

I came across this very reflective article in the papers :

Once a professor asked his students : "Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?" The students thought for a while before one of them said: "We shout because we lose our calm."

"But why shout when the other person is just next to you? Isn't it possible to speak to him/her with a soft voice?"

The students gave various answers, none of which satisfied the professor.

Finally he explained : "When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the louder they will have to shout to head each other through that great distance."

Then he asked : "What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly. Why? Because their hearts are close. The distance between them is small.

"When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak - they only whisper and get closer to each other in their love.

"Finally they do not even need to whisper. They only look at each other, that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other."

So, when we argue, do not let our hearts get distant or say words that distance each other even more, or there may come a day when the distance is so great you will not find the path back to each another.

TEAMWORK

The best and the worst part of my 2010 revolved around : TEAMWORK. It can bring you up so high and yet smack you right at the face. A team player can't survive in an individualistic environment, that's for sure but what's even more factual is that if you get team players that acts like one, who talks like one, who believes that they are one, who convinces themselves and others that they are one, then my friend, you are in deep trouble!

But then again once in a while you'll get team mates who do not possess the necessary skills and knowledge but they are hardworking, resourceful and willing to work for the team. There are some who will wait for the right moment to rise up to the occasion with the right attitude, right enthusiasm, right leadership but wrong timing because it's always very much too late!! Also , we do get team mates who tries to dictate without any form of respect, who ends up with no end product and/or worse : no respect from his/her team mates.

The worst team mates that one will ever get are those who are ignorant, don't give a damn about anything, a free-rider who expects things to be done and their only contribution is their assessment cover sheet, toppled with golden words of motivation such as "chill la, why so stress" when the half-done assignment is due the next day. Not to forget, their common phrase would be " what can I do/contribute? I wanna help out " when he/she know nuts about the task besides charming their potential lovers to get them Mc D, coming up with irrelevant suggestions such as going to Klang to complete the assignment at his/her place (when the rest of the team mates are all centered around Subang/KL), and only pretty skilled at their smartphone games.

I'd rather live without these type of team mates but we had to live with him/her on the surface but deep down they are without an identity in the TEAM

If TEAMWORK is that EASY in REALITY

Some TEAMS fail because they chose to fail,
Some TEAMS fail because they are meant to fail,
Some TEAMS fail because they have no choice but to fail
Some TEAMS fail because the other TEAMS succeeded
but MOST TEAMS fail because of TEAMWORK and
TEAMWORK fails because there's no TEAM at all !!

SO, should we be cruel but eliminating those who slow you/the team down? NO. We just don't choose them to be in the team in the first place. But how would we know their capabilities/weaknesses? The best answer that I can give you is to trust rumors and  trust your instinct, because I SCREWED UP once!

However with a mindset of "the positives always outweighs the negatives", i can assure you that the only positives we can take is that the rest of the team members will be even more bonded and the negatives/bad news is someone will be left out so badly that they will feel really really damn useless . Do they even bother? NO. Why would they even bother? Some people never change. Period.

Regardless, I was tied in a bond so strong that it seems unbreakable to me, and i truly believe that we can still be the B.E.S.T without the E, so long as we give it our best, enjoy the process of working our brain juices together, we suffer together, we lack sleep together, we eat together, we starve together, we complete it together, we can have a satisfaction greater than what an individual can ever achieve because it's always a case of combined efforts = combined amplified satisfaction! =)

B.S.T is still the best and we won't miss the E! hell yea! =)

TEAM : Together Everyone Achieve More